When it comes to fear -- what are you most afraid of?
Some people would say flying in an airplane, others spiders, but life coach Rhonda Britten says fear is the primary decision maker in your life.
But it can be a positive thing.
"Fear really is a friend," she says. "It actually just shows up when you're trying something new, it could even be a thought, a new feeling, a new experience."
In her book Fearless Living, Britten gives practical advice on how to be aware of your fears and not let them paralyze effective communication.
"We think we should know to say no to our mate, we think we should know how to ask for a raise, nobody really taught us how to do these things," she says.
Her strategies can be used for everything from relationships to the workplace.
She emphasizes having no expectations, giving up unrealistic expectations and being clear with people -- and don't expect them to read your mind.
Britten also says it's important not to make excuses, and always be personally responsible to yourself. No complaining is allowed because that just advertises your fears. And no beating yourself up -- give yourself a break.
Above all, Britten says savor the thrill of life's challenges instead of shrinking from them.
"That's when you know you're alive and that's when it becomes an affirmation for your growth."
With a report by CTV British Columbia's Dr. Rhonda Low
